How many more times do I have to tell you to get out of my way?

We go through this time and time and time again. This mirror is about to crack. Aren’t you exhausted already?

When are you going to learn that life doesn’t need your help – at all - when it comes to creating obstacles and barriers? Yet somehow, you insist on creating endless roadblocks for yourself.


Are you a masochist? Do you like being in distress? Are you secretly in love with self-inflicted trouble? Are you your own worst enemy?


Then … why are you doing this? Did someone say these things to you or is this your internal dialogue?

Nobody said those things to you. That was YOU. In order for someone to have said those things, they would’ve had to care enough … positive or negative.

Nobody cares – that much – about what your hair looks like or about the kind of car you drive or the side of town you live on. Trust me, they’re too busy worrying about what other people think of them. They’re overwhelmed by their own self doubt.

I know … I know … I know exactly what you’re thinking …

“But what if I do THIS or what if I do THAT?” Something BAD might happen!

Look … something BAD might also happen if you sit here all day and night worrying about something bad happening. You need to put on your adult pants and realize that crap happens in life every single day … regardless of you.

It’s not always about someone else or even you being to blame. It’s simply life happening – as life does. Life happens … and it’s often not about YOU.

You need to just deal with the clutter in your own head. Since you’re up all night anyway, why not just imagine yourself kicking that clutter out? Don’t let it kick you. Why not kick it? Kick it hard. You might just tire yourself out and fall asleep.

You have got to learn how to get out of your own way. You are the one holding yourself back. No one else is doing this. They’re not that intimate with you. You’re the one doing it.

Sure, you can blame other people for your problems. That’s your choice. Have at it. However, at the end of the day, those people aren’t looking at you in the mirror. YOU are. This is all about you. This is all about your internal chatter and what you will and will not allow.

It’s time to clean house. I know … who wants to clean house? But you’ve gotta do it. Start taking inventory of all the ridiculous things you’ve said to yourself, kick them to the curb and keep it movin’.

Joel Osteen once said that when you’re constantly worrying about inexplicable things and “spinning your wheels” over them, just imagine that you’ve got an “odds and ends” drawer in your mind. An odds and ends drawer is a place where you just toss junk that you don’t need right now (and will rarely use again). Just toss those ridiculous, dog-chasing-tail thoughts into that odds and ends drawer in your mind, shut it tight and forget about them. They are not serving you. In fact, they’re hurting you.

In other words, Osteen was telling you to … let’s say it together now …


Do you think there’s something noble about worrying? Is someone going to give you an Oscar or Heisman trophy for worrying? I think not.

I once heard Minister Tony Evans cite a report that says 80% of all the things we worry about NEVER happen. That’s crazy. Essentially, that means we should cut our worry time by at least 80%.

I know … I know … now you’re saying 20% of your worry time is still justified. Look, if you want to have a stroke, don’t let me get in your way. You’re doing a great job all by yourself.

Let’s think of it this way. Aren’t you exhausted? Aren’t you tired of talking down to yourself? Aren’t you done with the ridiculously negative inner-dialogue? It’s great to think things out, but this constant overthinking is counter-productive.

People don’t win trophies for low self-esteem. Well, you might, but I’m talking about everybody else. 

You’re wasting your precious planet time with this negative self-talk. You’re making things way harder than they need to be. Kick ‘em to the curb. Toss it all into your odds and ends drawer. Drop the negativity. Release it. Let it go.

I said … LET IT GO.

Before we part, I want you to do something for me. Go look at yourself in the bathroom mirror. Take a good, long look. Stare into your own eyes and then smile and wink and point at yourself with both index fingers and say …


“Get over yourself! Not everything is about you!”

And then, add with one final SHOUT …